Give up false guilt

Give up false guilt

Dear Dr. Graham:I feel guilty all the time. I feel guilty when I don’t spend enough time at work. When I work long hours, I feel guilty about not spending enough time at home. I feel guilty when my work product isn’t as good as it could be if I had more hours to spend...
We’re All Just Figuring It Out As We Go…

We’re All Just Figuring It Out As We Go…

Dear Dr. Graham: I need your advice about what to do next. I’d like to apply for an open position at my company, but I hesitate to put my hat in the ring. I meet most of the criteria for the role, but not all. In addition, even though I’ve completed a lot of formal...
Outsourcing… at home

Outsourcing… at home

Dear Dr. Graham: How can I be so successful at managing a large corporation’s accounting and finance organization, yet fail so dreadfully at managing life with a husband, two kids, a dog, and a house? Take last night. After cooking a healthy dinner (which both...
Whose Job Is More Important?

Whose Job Is More Important?

Dear Dr. Graham:Yesterday it happened again — for the fourth time since school started last fall. At 4:30 a.m. one of our kids got sick. By 5 a.m. my husband and I were in a debate about whose day was most important. Each of us were making the case for...
What is your word for 2019

What is your word for 2019

While we all know about New Year’s resolutions, all the resolution-related research tells us that such goals don’t make much of a difference. Once most people get past January, the general adherence to a long list of resolutions is very small. That’s why my challenge...
When Employees Hang On Your Every Word

When Employees Hang On Your Every Word

Dear Dr. Graham: I was recently promoted to vice president of my company, and now I feel like I’m losing the ability to have a normal conversation with people. Last week an employee approached me in the hall, and we had what I thought was a casual chat. I remember...
How to Say It: Giving a Peer Tough Feedback

How to Say It: Giving a Peer Tough Feedback

Dear Dr. Graham: I’ve learned a lot from what you’ve said about nonverbal communication and how employees can identify and address the nonverbal communication that might be offending others. But what I want to know is how to talk to a peer about her nonverbal...